If you need advice, ask!

[drumrb0y]

My wife and I are 18yrs in the lifestyle (in one form or another) raising three kids throughout; we might not have all the answers, but we might have some kind of useful advice.

[OverArgyle]

sure, I'll ask.

At what point did you (or have you) come out to your kids?
How did it go?
If you have not come out, do you plan to?

[Luthien]

This issue is what I have been looking to discuss. I am mom to an almost 2yr old. I would like to raise him to be accepting and openminded to all people whether their differences be related to race, sexuality, etc. I don't want to keep mine and my husband's choices for our lifestyle from him forever. I want to be able to be as open and honest with him as he would need me to be. I realize it is very early, but I want to be prepared for some of the inevitable questions before they arise. How have you addressed your lifestyle/sexuality with your children? I don't really know what else to ask at this point. Thank you for making yourselves available!

[beki]

Hello,

My kids were young, 3 and 6 when I divorced, and started living life polyamorously.

At some point a couple years after that, I told them that most people are with one person at a time, or married to one person, but I do it different, it is called polyamory, and I have a few people I love and am with. I also explained it to my nephew like that (sometime it seemed appropriate or he asked) and he just said, oh, ok.

Because I have my kids only 1/2 of the week, and do not live with anyone, they only a couple times were around me and 2 people I was with at the time. They thought it was unusual, but sort of understood. Usually my adult time is the 1/2 of the week I do not have them.

They now also know that I am with a number of people, some I have to travel to be with. They also know gay people, so know that some people do not follow the mainstream, and that is ok.

I answer any questions as I am out to them, my family, and the world. I was also interviewed for the paper, and told them beforehand that was happening (now they were pre-teenish age), in case their friends saw the article. We live in a place which is fairly unconventional (south Florida) so most likely we would not have been banned from their friend's houses.

xo
Beki