Author, sex educator, pro blogger, podcaster, reporter, and Forbes Web Celeb Violet Blue interviewed me about open relationships and my book for her San Francisco Chronicle column “Open Source Sex.” Violet rocks in so many ways, they are too numerous for me to go into here. I can’t wait to see her when I go to San Francisco next week! However, some of the comments in response to the article posted on the Chron site are misinformed, mean, and negative. Show your support for positive, healthy, satisfying open relationships! If you have a different perspective, I encourage you to go there and comment.

I am quoted in Dan Eldridge’s piece, “Marriage Without Monogamy,” which is part of a series he did for Tango Magazine. Check it out as well as the other pieces in his series. In fact, Tango has lots of pieces on non-monogamy, so look at the links at the bottom of his column for those.

This was posted to a list I belong to. The relationships of sex workers and their partners are underrepresented and underresearched. Please help spread the word about this important survey:

This Survey on Sex Professionals’ Relationships is intended to explore the effects of being mated to someone who is a sex worker, a sexual energy professional, or a sacred sexuality practitioner. Please indicate whether you are a sexual professional in some capacity, or if you are the mate to someone who is. “Mate” simply means that you are in a personal intimate relationship with that person, regardless of how you define your relationship.

Note that “sexual professional” will be used to refer to anyone who engages in sex work, sexual energy, or sacred sexuality (where that work involves people besides a significant other), no matter what label is preferentially used.

The questions are designed to be neutral concerning who is taking the test, so both professionals and their mates are encouraged to answer all the questions.

Thank you in advance for your time. For more information, contact Inara at Temple Red Lotus.

Here’s my take on the Eliot Spitzer “scandal,” for the Village Voice as seen through the eyes of someone who has open relationships on my mind clearly: In (Partial) Defense of Eliot Spitzer.

Just in case you’re not totally sick of all the coverage (a lot of which is redundant) of the Spitzer “scandal,” here’s a fabulous piece called “Against Sexual Scandal” by Lauren Berlant. She calls the mainstream media to task for its neverending sex-negativity. A little snip: “I felt sorry for sex during the Larry Craig brouhaha last summer. What if he liked being married and procreating and giving anonymous head? What if that was his sexual preference? What if he really was not gay, as he claims, but had sexual desires that seemed incoherent? Some of the response to Craig was like the response to moralists like Jim Bakker, Ted Haggard and now Spitzer–moralists deserve to suffer the same force of negative judgment they wielded on others. Shame on us? Shame on you, ha ha! But lots of the response was sheer homophobia. And all of it was sheer erotophobia.” I love her line about having sexual desires that seemed incoherent. Because in reality, a lot of us are way beyond gay/straight, kinky/vanilla, etc. and Berlant calls for us to embrace that rather than continue the cycle of shame.