Comments for Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up: Open Relationships, Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, Polyfidelity, Open Marriage

Comment on Tour Dates for November! by Sex Events November 2 – 8 | The View From My Knees: An insatiable girl's sex stories

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 20:04:08 +0000

[…] When: Sunday, November 8, 5:00 pm potluck, 6:00 pm workshop Where: see FetLife event page for location & directions More info: OpeningUp.net […]

Comment on Book Excerpt by 6/16 and 6/18 Relationships and Love; Kink and Beyond « Rutgers Human Sexuality, Summer 2009

Fri, 12 Jun 2009 18:03:30 +0000

[…] “Fiona and Sam” from Opening Up. Tristan Taormino. Cleis Press, 2008. […]

Comment on Amazon De-Ranks Books With “Adult” Content by alan7388

alan7388 — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 16:48:51 +0000

Hi Tristan!

This may not be Amazon’s doing at all. It could just be a bantown meta-troll, which Amazon will have to scramble to undo. More information:
http://tehdely.livejournal.com/88823.html

Stay tuned,

Alan M.

Comment on Amazon De-Ranks Books With “Adult” Content by Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 02:13:38 +0000

Oh, and the rego link for this when I signed up for an ID with your wordpress wait to my spam filter. I wonder if that’s a little bit censoring?

hmm

Comment on Amazon De-Ranks Books With “Adult” Content by Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 02:12:49 +0000

I find it sad that Amazon feels it has to censor content that way in order to (probably) appear some lobby group who wants to “cure” us all of our “deviant” behaviors. *sigh*

Comment on Poly Pride Keynote by Tristan Taormino’s Poly Pride Keynote Address | Ask The PolyCoach

Tristan Taormino’s Poly Pride Keynote Address | Ask The PolyCoach — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 16:07:25 +0000

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Comment on Columbus Buckeyes by Anita Wagner

Anita Wagner — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 17:47:43 +0000

Tristan, sounds like you had a great experience in the heartland.

About that cupcake - old sweaters??? Yuck! That must taste awful. (LOL) It does look adorable.

Comment on Podcast Mania by agahran

agahran — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:05:48 +0000

Hi, Tristan

Just listened to both parts of your excellent PolyWeekly interview. Well done, both you & the Minx!

Thanks also for answering my question regarding communication about safer sex in open relationships. I agree, you have to get much more specific than just “safer sex,” since people have very different ideas about what they need or expect in that regard.

I’d like to take this a little further. I’d love to hear your thoughts/advice on these aspects of safer sex communication in open relationships:

1) Safer sex is often surprisingly hard to discuss. People often have strong negative emotional reactions to communication about safer sex practices and agreements. Some find discussing these details too clinical, invasive, unromantic, controlling — or as implying that someone’s not smart, “dirty,” or not trustworthy. How can people in an open relationship deal with these kinds of resistance — either by working through them, or by coming to terms with having only protected sex (even between committed partners, such as spouses).

2) People often attach a lot of symbolic or emotional meaning to unprotected sex — as a symbol of status (”as spouses, we’re fluid bonded, so protected sex only with all other partners”) or intimacy (getting rid of the barriers means we’re emotionally closer or more committed). Can this be a pitfall; and if so, how?

3) If you’re in a situation where two or more partners are fluid-bonded and someone wants to start having unprotected sex with another partner, what responsibilities do all of the people involved have in communicating about this issue up front? And what are some tips for handling the situation if someone in the original fluid-bonded group does not wish to be indirectly fluid-bonded with the new partner?

Thanks!

- Amy Gahran

Comment on St. Louis by Ohari

Ohari — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 21:40:06 +0000

Thank You for coming to our town! I sent you an email this morning at the address published on this site, with more complete and accurate details of the local poly resources/groups here. Feel free to share!

Comment on Madison, Wisconsin by betty

betty — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 01:22:16 +0000

I’ve seen the luggage. I’ve even helped move a very small portion of it.

It’s intense.

Colten is a hero.

Jeebus, I so want to follow you two on tour just once.